If you only have the streets, you encounter violence on all sides: black on black violence, the violence of addiction, and the violence of police brutality. But when she isn't on -- the voice feels moralizing and sermon-like, hard to swallow. This means a society must be based on the concept of mutual growth. I believe in being a good person, which transcends religion - or at least it should. Although much of her criticism of the educational world is aimed at the traditional educationalist and what Freire refers to as the banking concept of education, she is also very aware that much of the ideology of modern society arises from the mass media. Share these Bell Hooks famous quotes on love with your friends on Facebook 10 I am passionate about everything in my life—first and foremost, passionate about ideas. If we're talking about implicit messages, I think it's too subjective to tell everyone has their biases.
When she was on, this authoritative voice felt like a revelation -- such as when she declares that abuse and love cannot coexist. What does that look like therapeutically, or collectively? This change still amazes me. Other reviewers complain that hooks does not support all of her arguments with research; while I respect that complaint, we also must keep in mind that the research we produce reflects the values of our time, and hooks is way ahead of 2017 i. Previous interviews in this series with Linda Martin Alcoff, Judith Butler, Noam Chomsky, Charles Mills, Falguni A. I learned a lot from bell hooks about choosing love, about re-vitalizing our dedication to honesty, accountability, and hope. One pattern that made the practice of love especially difficult was my constantly choosing to be with men who were emotionally wounded, who were not that interested in loving, even though they desired to be loved.
To understand why male lying is more accepted in our lives we have to understand the way in which power and privileges are accorded to men simply because they are males within a patriarchal culture. That spirit of revolution, that call to practice transformative love captured my critical imagination and merged with my longing to find a loving partner. Sacred presence was there, a spirit of love and compassion like spring mist covered us, and loving-kindness embraced me and my words. Finding ways to express true love required vigilance, patience, a will to let go, and the creative use of the imagination to invent new ways of relating. We consider ourselves a pro-feminist community. But again, as linked earlier, the evidence shows that people do not see the masculine as superior to the feminine.
Additionally, she shows great appreciation for the movement away from feminist thought as led by bourgeois white women, and towards a multidimensional gathering of both genders to fight for the raising up of women. When radical activists have not made a core break with dominator thinking imperialist, white supremacist, capitalist patriarchy , there is no union of theory and practice, and real change is not sustained. In the last chapter of the book, hooks raised the critical question of eros or the erotic in classrooms environment. It's a beautiful, affirming, heartbreaking statement, that seems to have a large weight of truth behind it, at once the most and least obvious thing. I have no problem if she wishes to discuss spirituality and love, there's no problem at all, but when a religious, theistic faith is presented as something essential to be loving, caring, and so on, the insinuation that an atheist could not be as loving as a theist is certainly a very antagonizing sentiment that I can't even fathom. Growing up in a dysfunctional family and as a recovering codependent, I related very well to nearly 70% of the text's offerings and many of the author's own experiences, and I believe that I grew and developed as a person while completing this read.
None of these statements are supported by facts or studies. I would not recommend this book to anyone reading bell hooks for the first time - this is probably not the place to start, unless all of what I wrote about above regarding Christianity is something you're interested in. But I was surprised by this book. Another part of restructuring the movement comes from education; bell hooks points out that there is an anti-intellectual stigma among the masses. Self-actualisation should be the goal of the teacher as well as the students. What would that teach me? I used to talk about patriarchy as a mental illness of disordered desire, but white supremacy is equally a serious and profound mental illness, and it leads people to do completely and utterly insane things. I believe whole-heartedly that the only way out of domination is love.
She wondered how much had been absorbed and carried on through the generations to shift not only parenting, but spectatorship as well. I construct a falsely outgoing self, which I present in most casual interactions throughout the day. Sadly, 'All About Love' is no exception. I would say the first half or more really did work for me. The bigger problem is that's how both sides see each other. Hooks believes that to engage in film was to engage in the negation of black female representation in the media.
She proposes that if we all came to the agreement that love is a verb rather than a noun, then we would all be happier. Throughout all of this, she illuminates a path toward a more loving relationship with yourself and others, so we can all work toward a more loving society. I think lack of awareness is a big part of the problem. This non-academic, though the intellectually written book, will allow you to consider your own thoughts and views on what love is while giving you cultural awareness on what society allows us to accept and what we are taught to believe love is. Instead of one gender deciding to privilege one over the other, Hooks introduces an idea that is rooted in many religions. I really push myself to relate to people, that is, people that I might not feel as comfortable relating to.
What especially worked for me was a section on Commitment that talked about the workplace, and since I work in a place that doesn't not necessarily foster a loving environment all the time, which I recognize more now that I've removed myself from some of the larger negativeness, I found what she had to say about love in the workplace especially profound. We believe these relationships, more than any other, will rescue and redeem us. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling,' p114. My reservation with this particular text is that, in my opinion, she represents too many generalizations as fact without citations. Traditionally, our culture thinks of love as a thing, a passive feeling of tenderness or affection that comes over us, into which we fall involuntarily, something instinctual over which we have little control. I think in saying this, she articulated something that we all know intellectually, but in a way that really translates.
But then at some point, there was a shift in tone, and suddenly we're reading about religion and angels. I liked that she incorporated a broader defition of love--familial love, friendship, love of work, divine love, and a universal love for humanity. On the contrary, men are socialized to receive care, and to suppress deep and meaningful emotional responses as part of their construct of masculine identity—something that hooks describes in The Will to Change. Not every chapter in All About Love was as mind-blowing for me as the first few. Without all of those people engaged in civil rights struggles, I would not be here in this laboratory. This shared understanding of love helps connect Buddhist traditions with Christian practice. She also promotes a notion of in a similar way to Freire i.
That's okay, because I am in support of people growing and changing and becoming, whatever, their most authentic selves. We parted on friendly terms, and I could enjoy my solitary wanderings with a sense of empowerment, rather than guilt. Young men whose hearts were awakening, they created in mystical moments of sacred encounter a symbolic sangha. Having had a father like mine provided all too convenient of an excuse for blaming men for my anger and disappointment. When men and women punish each other for truth telling, we reinforce the notion that lies are better. As hooks points out, we expect all people to do this to some extent: Lies are told about the most insignificant aspects of daily life. I talk about spirituality more now than ever before, because I see my students suffering more than ever before, especially women students who feel like so much is expected of them.